Behind Closed Doors

Lately, I am reminded of how easy it is to miss things, to not get it, to not understand and to be clueless. 

I have been thinking a lot of  wonderful man, husband, friend, brother and owner of his own business here in town. He always greets me as I entered his shop as he did to every customer.  He is so kind, helpful and ALWAYS remembers my name among the hundreds who visit.  He is ALWAYS smiling and so kind.  I remember thinking as I leave the store that he is so good at trying to make each customer feel important and appreciated.  Little did I know that he was sad and crying out.  He took his own life a couple of weeks ago.  It came to a shock to us all.  Really?  He was always so happy and smiling.  What?  I couldn't understand.  He will be missed. I only knew him by his name.  I never got to know him or to see what his life was really like "behind closed doors".  It is sad.  Since his passing, I have had a lot of regrets.  What could I have said to make his day a little brighter? Why didn't I show my appreciation more for his kindness.  Sure... it's not my fault, but I am reminded of how easy it is to miss the signs.

Closer to home, I have a sweet, dear cousin going through the biggest trial in her life.  She, from the outside looks to have it all.  I admire her.  She has three beautiful children one angel with special needs that can be a challenge but she makes it the greatest blessing. She is talented beyond words, teaching piano, cooking up a storm, wonder mom,  teacher, etc.  I see so much in her that I wish to be.  She is faithful in the gospel and teaches her children likewise.  But, "behind closed doors" she has been suffering with abuse for many years.  She has had strength to endure it for the sake of her children.  She is now trying to leave this cycle of unhappiness only to encounter a different set of challenges as a result.  Our prayers and service will be rendered on her behalf.

We never know what one is going through by the looks on the outside.  We all struggle with one thing or another.  We all manage life and it's challenges differently.  We all have different abilities and talents.  We all have our doors shut from time to time and for some of us always.  My hope is to recognize those doors that need to be knocked on and actually KNOCK. 

For if we don't knock, the door won't be opened. Who knows what difference we can make in the life of another once we're inside.